Saturday, October 1, 2011

How to Conquer Comparisons by Lysa Terkheurst

*comparisons are always something I have struggled with.  How easy is it to do? So easy!, if we are not living a "controlled thought life" and being happy being perfectly equipped to be our own selves. Wow. *

How to Conquer Comparisons
Have you ever questioned why God isn't blessing you in the same way as someone else? When I
find myself making comparisons and wanting what someone else has, I must consciously choose
to redirect my thinking. Too many of us live with an uncontrolled thought life. It is possible to
learn to identify destructive thoughts and make wiser choices. Instead of letting these thoughts
rumble freely about in my mind, I make the choice to harness them and direct them toward truth.
Think of something you want that someone else has. Have you been lured into thinking, “If only
I had ___________________ like that person, my life would be great!”
Now, practice redirecting those thoughts by saying instead:
I am not equipped for her good.
I am not equipped for her bad.
I am not equipped to carry the weight of her victories.
I am not equipped to shoulder her burdens.
I am not equipped to be her in any way.
I am, however, perfectly equipped to be me.
Therefore, thank You, God, for only entrusting me with what I have and who I am.
When I compare myself to others and focus on wanting what they have, it quite simply wears me
out trying to figure out how to have more, be more, and do more. That’s why Jesus instructs
worn-out people, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will
find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28–30).
Note a couple key words in these verses. A “yoke” is a wooden frame used to harness two draft
animals to whatever they have to pull. The Greek word for “easy” can also mean “well-fitted.”
Combine this information together and it appears that Jesus is saying He has equipped each of us
with well-fitted assignments in life. As long as we do and aspire to only what He calls us, our
burden will not only be manageable, it will be light.
It’s also interesting to note that when an animal is in training, a farmer will often put it in a head
yoke rather than a neck yoke to keep the animal from looking around and getting anxious. I think
my head yoke has been the thought-redirecting statement, “I’m not equipped to handle what they
have—both good and bad.” It sure has stopped me from looking around and getting anxious!
For more information on this topic, read Lysa’s book,
Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl.
Lysa TerKeurst
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